The Way to Self-Improvement Is to Work On Yourself
Why do you want to refine your life? Is there something that is motivating you to do so? What is it?
Perchance you want to learn a new language, start a business, improve your relationships or to balance your life.
It is never easy to rewire yourselves. Changing perceptions, habits, unlearning what we thought was right and acceptable, or getting rid of what’s not working for us. It takes courage and strength to venture into discomfort and unknown zones.
Some days you’ll feel like quitting. Heck! You may even feel like what you’re doing isn’t making sense and question your ability to achieve your plans.
Don’t think too much.
Never underestimate yourself. Aim high enough to arrive alive and as a winner. “Be hungry” enough to strive for what you want to accomplish. This thing call determination will get you anywhere you want. “Fight” for it, and be relentless and unstoppable in your pursuits.
Birthdays, holidays, anniversaries come and go. And many of you focused on giving to others. While that in itself isn’t a bad gesture, I’d like to tell you of the greatest gift you can give yourself.
…to be the best version of yourself.
Allow yourself to radiate unashamedly and endlessly.
You are worthy of it. You are important. Don’t waste your time on earth. It is too precious. And you don’t need to prove your worth or how much you matter to anyone. Show them.
Work on yourself. By yourself. For yourself.
If you don’t plan your life someone else will, and guess what? It’s nothing special.
Recently, I’ve been reflecting on my life. And I realized although I’ve never had any meaningful of support base, I managed to fight through every uncertainty. I am still standing. After all who else is supposed to have my back.
There is no other one like me on this planet. And the same goes for you. Let that sink in.
My life matters. And just in case you feel left out – yours matter too. Or you don’t think so?
Being better won’t happen if you are too busy trying to hide yourself and dimming your light.
So what? You may ask.
Who am I to be brilliant and fabulous? Well, who am I NOT to be. Playing small won’t get me anywhere. There’s nothing great in staying in the dark for insecure people. I am meant for the extraordinary.
When you give yourself the gift of greatness. That greatness is given to the world when you come into contact with others.
I believe that the journey of self-improvement is never-ending. The goal is to enjoy the journey along the way and the small achievements. That’s the beauty about it. Perhaps another reason self–improvement is never-ending is because we are not perfect.
The last few years have been challenging for me. In-spite of that, I’ve been pushing pass my limits. Sometimes I lack consistency. But I never quit.
There’s been so much noise around me these days, and this is testing my limit. It’s time to move. I’ve had enough. The signs are all around me. And I won’t wait further. At the same time, this experience is teaching me a lesson of my lifetime and is a contributor to my personal growth. And it has also taught me quite a few things that I’d share with you in a few moments.
Some of the key components that’s contributing to my personal development.
Stay Away From Negative People And Environment
These kind of people won’t encourage you. The drain you and their negative feedback will affect your perception.
It doesn’t surprise me how negative some people are. The only thing I often wondered about them is what really goes on in their minds. At times you can tell by what they do with their lives.
Make yourself unavailable for meet-ups and conversations. And just a reminder, these people can also be difficult people who are always trying to compete with you, but never seems to be getting anywhere. They lack empathy and compassion. Not everyone has your best interest at heart and listening to these type of people depletes your energy and discourages you.
Don’t become such a disaster that you feel you can’t live without them, especially if they are your family and close friends.
Increase Your Focus
There’s is a saying that says “Early to bed early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise” by Benjamin Franklin. Makes me wonder if he was an earlier riser. It can also be the opposite, hence his quote. Who knows. Oh! I just realize Benjamin Franklin was indeed an early riser. Good on him.
To increase your focus you will need to eliminate distractions, get enough sleep and you might even want to include, avoid multi-tasking. Also, consider how much time you dedicate to social media. Additionally, I can also substantiate the fact that exercise is perfect for pumping the brain, thereby enhancing your concentration.
Develop New And Meaningful Habits
Create detail and specific goals and add them to existing habits. Observe them for patterns and clues. This way you set yourself up for success.
We are creatures of habit and when we are accustom to a certain habit, for example, waking up at six in the morning, exercise, shower and have breakfast. Adopting new habits shouldn’t be that difficult. All it takes is your will to accomplished your goal.
You can use existing habits to create positive ones.
Developing new and meaningful habits will increase your quality of life and you will have a lifetime of benefits. Let us say, you are working on a diet and exercising often in order to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Sticking to such a plan will allow you to reap the benefits by increasing your quality of life and and promoting vitality.
Push Pass Your Limits
Your loses, mistakes, failures and every discomfort are all part of your growth. For you to get where you want to go you’ll have to accept the things that makes you uneasy, learn from loses, and find your motivation.
Pushing beyond your limit help to improve your worth because it let you see how tough you are and how you can get through these circumstances given your ability and strength to challenge the things that seems impossible and make you realize your shortcomings and failures and “what others say” are only stepping stones.
Consider what is good and what will work for you. Move away boundaries and use brainstorming techniques to generate ideas. A good old fashion connection or networking are valid. But this is up to you and what makes you comfortable. Don’t be afraid to expose yourself to wider audiences and experience, or be afraid of external opinions.
Distancing yourself is a good step in the right direction to establish the right strategy and visualize what you want to achieve.
This isn’t an overnight action, but a continuous step perhaps each day or every week. Work at your own pace.
All of these are about commitment, time and energy but that’s key to working on yourself. Let your mind and brain work for you. Trying these methods is bound to work for you. Make sure you hold yourself accountable in order to experience satisfaction and see positive results.
Keep in mind that your personal development is your job. It’s nothing magical, it’s commitment. It involves hard work and persistence, and it’s very easy revert to the old way; and it becomes impossible when we overwhelm ourselves with too much at once.
Don’t worry about how difficult it might be. Once you start you will always find a way to navigate through tough times.
“The time is now. Stop hitting the snooze button on your life.”– Mel Robbins